“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” Ephesians 4:25
If someone wrote a one-sentence summary of your marriage, what would it say? How does it compare to God’s call in Ephesians 4?
In our marriage, we must carefully and passionately listen to our Lord’s instructions and not our desires, so we live in and for Him and not in the ways of the world lest we think like people who love to sin. If we are of the world–thinking as people who are “ok” with sin–dark thoughts will be ours. Dark thoughts become our dark behaviors. This way of life leads only to chaos, life’s upsets, and regrets with all the consequences and none of the perks. This is life apart from God. This is life away from God. People who think and act in darkness have hardened their hearts; they are convicted. They do not seek God as their eyes are turned only on “pleasures” and desires; they become filled with things like greed and immorality, and they lose real compassion and kindness.
This is not how and why our Lord came to set us free! Christ, Our Savior, did not die and rise so that we would just sin more!
We have been given a gift that transforms our lives; let us act like it with His Truth and not the world’s wicked ways or our own self-centered motivations. We can, by His empowerment, remove our old lives of sin and replace our mindset and actions with His principles that give us a better, more fulfilling life. This is akin to removing filthy rotten rags and putting on the finest clothes.
Wearing our finest clothes, here means wearing the love and gratitude we have for Christ, creates better attitudes and character. Crates a better marriage and a more content purposeful life. This demonstrates to others who we are in Christ–holy people created and called by a Holy God. This holy life strives to be and is free from dysfunction, deceit, and depression. In this, we can treat each other as well as others with respect and practice our faith with fruitfulness and character. We can control our thoughts, words, and behaviors so we do not let our anger get out of control or fester.
We can keep ourselves from lying, stealing, fighting, irritation, being mean or bitter, all that we would be useful and productive not just for our marriage but also for the Kingdom, and not bow to the devil’s ways.
The Church must share these precepts and us build our relationships and family’s us, to help one another, work as a community in love, so we do not hurt the Holy Spirit. We can forgive and move on and be the people we are called to be, as we are sealed by Christ’s redemption (Eph. 4:17-32)!
Our redemption also gives us an understanding, to think, and to have a desire for real Truth. Then a desire to have a healthier communication and mutual respect and love. Because this is Christ’s Truth in the action of our application. We are to think about Christ and consider what we have in Him to experience our new lives. Then we will have transformed marriages, that are moving away from bitterness and dysfunction. Yes, we can sin and live as we please, we can ignore our spouse and be mean and live as we were never married, but what will that get us? Paul emphatically fights this heinous notion.
We have no right to sin deliberately thinking, I am already forgiven so it is OK to sin (Col. 1:9; 2 Tim. 3:16-17; 1 Pet. 2:2)!
What can you learn from Ephesians 4 for your marriage?
In prayer, for the next forty days, read a few verses from Ephesians 4 each day, so you have read the chapter at least ten times. What is God telling you? Seek what you can do to put into practice the Christ-centered life?